Happiness vs. Unhappiness

This is a little off my usual target - but I like its simplicity and I also know how easy it is for overweight/obese people to make themselves unhappy.

The pursuit of happiness is as old as modern civilization. Books, elixers, religions, and philosophies are all devoted to it. Happiness is a quest, an obsession, and a universal aspiration.

But what does it take to be unhappy?

In some ways, it's easier than happiness itself. New research and much life experience offers a simple recipe for genuine discontent. 

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Buy things you can't afford or don't want. Either choice is a sure fit for unhappiness. When you buy things you can't afford, you go into debt, which limits the other choices available to you. When you buy things you don't want, you lie to yourself about the real source of your unhappiness. 

Compare yourself to others. The love of comparison is the root of much misery. Therefore, judge your success or worth based on other people, especially those with a different background from you. Do this on a continual basis, always looking for a new idol or competitor in which your ideal unhappiness lies. 

Take no joy in the journey. Focus only on the destination without appreciating the ride. Fail to celebrate small successes, and neglect to pause for reflection on how far you've come.

Respond instead of initiate. Take no responsibility for your schedule or preferences. Let other people set the agenda for your life. Take the lead for your schedule from your Inbox, voicemail, or someone else's demands.

Allow other people to determine your values and priorities. Set no compass point for your life. Drift in the wind. For best results, allow your values and priorities to shift as you waver between bosses or role models. 

Refuse to challenge yourself. Take it easy and settle into routine. Choose to believe that all stress is bad and seek to live as relaxed a life as possible.

Whine and complain to anyone who will listen. Explain how the world isn't fair and how you would do things differently if you were in charge. Bonus: this practice also allows you to contribute to other people's unhappiness.

Focus only on yourself. Refuse to forgive. Hold on to grudges. See the worst in people. Do not give out free lunch. 

Settle. Accept things as they are no matter how unsettling they might seem. It could always be worse, right? Live in the complacency of your situation and refuse to fight for something better. 

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Happiness may require more than pithy quotations on Twitter and a good sleep cycle, but unhappiness is fairly simple. 

What would you add to the list?



The author is Chris Guillebeau who is a generous and clever online writer and entrepreneur.

So if he's succinctly identified what causes unhappiness, we only need to reverse it to grasp what will help lead to happiness.

Thank you Chris - sometimes we know something but need to see it written down to have it sink in.  Plus I love the picture of the muddy, abandoned teddy bear!